aren't they living with you any longer? DD is in a holding pattern. She has been applying for the peace corp which is a long involved process. She can't get a divorce if she wants to get into the peace corp. She may be losing the crappy job she has but it is a job. She's waiting for the peace corp, and Phd program and feels that everything is hurry up and wait and in the meantime she's sick of waiting. She's thinking of giving up the PC and getting the divorce done so she can move on. It's a bit stressful for everyone.